Many people think water aerobics (or splash) is for the “oldies” and too easy to do. However, did you know that it is an excellent exercise for any age, male and female, who wants to build endurance, recover after an operation or pregnancy.
Whether you are swimming laps or peddling in a small pool, being in water is a great workout for the whole body. Although it is similar to land-based aerobics, the big difference is that it is done in the shallow side of a pool and you work with the resistance of the water and buoyancy, instead of gravity.
Another distinct difference is that, when you are in the water, your joints are more protected when you run or do jumps (so for anybody with joint problems, arthritis and the like, this is a much safer option than a body conditioning or step class, for example).
During a class, members get to choose how hard they want to work. For example, if you want to run, then run during the warm-up. Or just march on the spot. Although your heartrate might not go up as high as cardio workouts on land, it actually works just as hard due to more blood being pumped to the heart as is a very good way to improve your heart health. It can help to lower your blood pressure, as well your “bad” LDL cholesterol-levels, whilst raising your “good” HDL cholesterol-levels.
For anybody with a heart issue / heart problem, water aerobics can be a safe option because the whole body is not submerged in water. I would, however, suggest that a person always consult with his / her medical professional first, before doing any exercise, especially if there is any serious health problems.
Water aerobics are also a very good way to stay in shape whilst pregnant. Not only will it benefit the mother to keep her strength and suppleness, but it is a very safe environment for both mother and her unborn. However, it is important for the mother-to-be to remember that, in the last trimester of pregnancy, not to swing / kick her leg out to the side too far, but to stay within her own body’s range of motion. Widening the legs too far can unlock the pelvis and can trigger an early delivery.
For anybody suffering from diabetes, this is also a good option. Often, whilst exercising, diabetic people tend to get hot quite quickly. When you exercise in the water, your body temperature stays the same and, at the same time, it is easier on the feet (due to issues with the nerves in the feet).
Working on balance and core stability are just another reason to get into the pool. When you are older, your main goal is not to develop a six pack, but rather to keep your balance, mobility and flexibility for as long as possible. Even younger people, who are stiff because they don’t stretch enough before and after a workout, can benefit from water aerobics.
Water based-exercises is a great way to start exercising when you haven’t been doing anything for a long time, or nothing at all! Think of it as building a house. You start by laying the foundation (in the water it is safe and you work with the water’s resistance; so far less skeletal pounding when you run on a treadmill, for example), you work and develop your flexibility, range of motion, mobility, core strength and stamina, then you move onto the land, and incorporate other classes or exercise-routines into your routine.
So; next time when you’re at the gym…don’t shy away from the water aerobics class because there are older people, or because you cannot swim. Take a chance, put on your swimming costume, and give it a try! You’ll be quite surprised how difficult it can be, especially if it’s your first time, to exercise in water.
We all know that there are many differences between men and women. When it comes to exercising and wanting to lose body fat, we have to start at the beginning and look at these differences.
The big difference is where we store body fat. For men, it is the chest, midsection, love handles, upper back and lower back. For women, it is the arms (especially the triceps), hips (muffin top), thighs, calves, upper back and buttocks.
One of the main reasons why we struggle to get rid of excess body fat is our hormones. Both men and women carry oestrogen and testosterone in their bodies. It is the ratio of these hormones that will impact what happens as we age and where we store our body fat. Women are made to bear children, thus that area will be more prone to excess body fat than their back. However, both men and women can carry excess weight in areas where the other would normally not have it (especially when we look at eating habits and exercise/non-exercise routines). Due to the higher levels of testosterone in men, they carry more visceral fat (this is fat that is deeper inside the abdominal cavity) This is a very dangerous fat and again, women can also carry it around.
Women, on the other hand, has higher oestrogen-levels, thus their fat is subcutaneous (it is just underneath the skin), giving it a dimpled (orange peel) appearance.
Visceral fat is more easily visible because of the receptors in the adipose tissue that bind to the fat (think of men’s bellies), whereas subcutaneous fat is stored in different areas, due to the levels of oestrogen (as mentioned earlier, it can be the triceps, thighs, buttocks, and so forth).
So…how do we fix it? Is there a quick fix, a quick diet, or a quick plan? The answer is…no.
Don’t despair as there is hope! Nutrition is key, as well as a good exercise-plan / routine. Women and men will both benefit from strength training / weight-bearing exercises. Resistance training and/or high intensity interval training is another good routine. Stretching, swimming, cycling, walking or running should be done in-between.
Jeff Cavaliere, an American Fitness and Rehabilitation Specialist, who trains international athletes, said the following on his YouTube-channel Athlean-X: “There is no such thing as a quick fix. Ladies, if you’re worried that you’re going to build bulky muscles with strength-training; you won’t because you’ll lose the stubborn fat while building lean muscles. And men; you cannot only train without a good eating plan. Nutrition plays a huge role in whether or not you lose the excess body fat or not.”
Here is an example of Jeff’s nutritional plan – and the key is balance!
40 % fibrous carbs of vegetables and fruits;
20% starchy carbs (sweet potato, wholegrains, etc).
Adding the “good fats” like olive oil and butter, to your diet, is important, as long as it is in moderation.
Other foods that can aid the body to balance the hormonal-changes / fluctuations, according to Jeff, are Ginger, Red grapes, Mushrooms, Oysters and Cruciferous vegetables.
Another very important factor to look at is your stress-levels. Staying balanced also includes being emotionally balanced. Stress can and will play havoc on your health, your hormones and your general well-being. Many people eat when they are under stress, which just adds to the already-existing problem. Thus, it is vital to maintain an inner and outer balance. Stretching, being out in nature, meditating, reading and listening to relaxing music, are all ways to destress.
Overall, one must remember that the chemicals (hormones) and family genetics play a big role in how your body burns and stores fat. Nutrition is the most important thing to look at, not just training. In the end, it is best to build lean muscle progressively and to maintain balance, both physically, mentally and emotionally.
And remember – balance, just like drinking enough water, is key!
Men and women are not only different physically, but also when it comes to our hormones and internal changes as we age.
When you’re in your 20’s regular, sustained exercises and resistance training, are good ways to keep you in shape and healthy. For the young ladies who are worried about weight training; using light weights will not make you bulky. Now is also a good time to make sure that your body gets the right amount of calcium, magnesium and potassium. Adding more bananas, yoghurt, milk, almonds, and so forth, to your diet, is a great way to up your daily intake of calcium, magnesium and potassium.
In your 30’s you start losing bone mass. It is vital to keep doing resistance training, cardio and using light weights to maintain bone mass. Light hand weights, kettle balls, Thera bands, a Pilates ball, and so forth, are great tools to exercise with. Other exercises like Pilates, Yoga and Kegel-movements, are great to maintain flexibility, build and maintain core strength (vital for a strong, healthy back), and stamina. Eating foods rich in beta-carotene calcium, iron, magnesium and vitamin C, is a great way to boost the immune system and keeping the lungs, heart and gut healthy.
When you’re in your 40’s, hormonal changes can start to occur. Making sure you take a good supplement and eating a balanced diet full of fruit, vegetables, protein and carbs, will help maintain energy levels as well as muscle strength and bone density. Exercises like Pilates, Yoga, light weights, cardio (walking, cycling, swimming), as well as massages, Tai Chi and meditation, will keep the balance between body, mind and spirit, as well as help you cope with changes and daily life. Whether you should use medical tablets or natural medicine for hot flushes is up for debate. I personally believe natural products are safer and works better in the long run, but it is a personal choice. I would recommend ginger tea for inflammation – wonderful tea that is also great for nausea and queasiness.
In your 50’s muscle mass can start to decrease if you don’t keep exercising. Pilates and yoga are great exercise routines that will not only help you to maintain core strength, stamina and flexibility (one of the things one tends to lose with age), but it also wonderful balance and stability exercises. Turmeric is a spice that has many uses. It is an anti-oxidant, can fight inflammation, thus alleviating arthritis, as well as boosting energy levels and mood.
Adding cinnamon to your food is also a great spice and, did you know, that taking cinnamon regularly, will stabilize your cholesterol levels? Together with turmeric (a natural anti-inflammatory), it keeps you healthy in a natural, simple way. Mix these into your drink, food, or buy the tablets.
Whether you are still young or close to retirement – the sooner you start to incorporate exercising into your daily life, the better. It doesn’t matter if you go to the gym, to private classes, swim, run, walk or dance, the most important thing is to keep moving!
Chris Walsh said “From your 30’s, without training, you lose 2 kilos of muscle mass and gain 4 kilos of body fat every decade.”
A decade might seem far away, but the less you exercise, the easier it is to quickly pile up those extra, mostly unwanted kilos of body fat, and the harder it is to lose it when you get older. Exercising should not be seen as a chore – rather as a lifestyle. Our bodies were not made to sit and lie all day; we were made to move; think of children who instinctively wants to move. Movement, after all, is life! Without movement your heart cannot function optimally, your lungs cannot absorb and distribute enough oxygen throughout the body, your brain becomes fuzzy, your muscles start to contract, becoming stiff and sore and you start having more and more back problems due to weak muscles and sitting all day. Your bones need the muscles to carry the body’s weights and keep it off the bones. As I mentioned earlier, from the age of 30 you start to lose bone density. When your muscles are weak, it adds extra, unwanted weight onto the bones. This puts the skeletal system under great stress, causing back pack, herniated discs, sciatica, neck problems, knee and hip problems, and so forth. Having extra kilos just adds oil to the fire, so to speak!
Exercising and eating healthy are the best way to maintaining fitness, strength, flexibility, stamina and overall health and wellbeing. Not smoking or stopping, keeping your alcohol consumption low and not drinking plenty of caffeine every day, are also vital to maintain a healthy body, mind and skin. There is a saying – “what you eat you become.” So be careful; keep processed foods and takeaways to a minimum or cut it out all together and make your own pizza’s and burgers at home. There are loads of recipes to choose from and can be a fun activity with the kids!
If you do enjoy going out for a meal once in a while, or having a “cheat” meal, then keep it for once a month, instead of every week. Children learn by example; so put on your tekkies, get up and move!
Stretching is just as important, if not more important, than exercise and relaxation. When we stretch, we open the vertebrae and the muscles go back into “normal” mode. When you wake up after a good night’s rest, do make a point of stretching before you get out of bed. First and foremost, bend your knees and gently press your back and shoulder blades gently into the mattress. This will open-up the vertebrae, because when we sleep, we lie still and the vertebrae “compress” as it were. Then straighten your arms and legs, take a deep breath and stretch your limbs (legs, toes, arms and fingers) as far as you can, and as you exhale relax. Repeat 2 – 3 times.
To loosen a stiff back, bend your knees (close to your chest) and gently drop them to the left-side (inhale) and hold it here while you exhale. Inhale again and take your legs to the right-side and hold it while you exhale. Keep your shoulder-blades on the mattress and be gently when bringing the knees back to the centre. Repeat 2 – 3 times.
Another good stretch for the sciatica, back, legs and hip flexors, is to bend your right-leg and, while placing your hands underneath the knee (stay clear of your knees!) or below the knee on the shinbone, take a deep breath in and gently pull the leg towards your chest. As you exhale, relax your grip and repeat for 2 – 3 times. Then do the same with your left leg.
A good way to loosen the lower back and sciatica, is to sit on the edge of the bed or a chair in a bent, relaxed position, with a stretched-out leg. Point and flex the foot slowly for 6 counts, while looking at the foot. If there is a strong pull in you lower back, do this exercise while looking in front of you instead of at your foot, until it becomes easy. Repeat this with the other leg.
Still stiff in your back? Stand up and cross your one leg over the other, keeping the front leg slightly bent. Take a deep breath in, straighten your spine and gently bend (ONLY in the spine) forward until you feel a gently pull / stretch on the other leg’s side. Repeat with the other leg in front. Not comfortable? Then stand with your legs hip-width apart, bend your knees and lean slight forward. Gently twist slightly and point your right shoulder at your left leg and vice versa. Move from side-to-side while pulling and pointing your shoulders to the opposite legs. Remember to inhale first and then exhale as you move toward the knees. Do this a few times, then come into the centre and round your back and flatten it. Again, inhale as you curl up and exhale as you straighten your back.
Circling your wrists and ankles one way and then another is also a good way to loosen those joints. If you hear a crackling sound and it is not hurting, then don’t worry. It is your body’s way of telling you to add more Omega oils to your diet! When you don’t eat enough oily fish or get enough Omega oil-supplements in, the tendons that are connecting the bones with the muscles, starts to get dry, thus they “crackle.”
Making sure that you stretch before you get out of bed, is not only important for getting the muscles going and the oxygen flowing, but it is also a way of lubricating all the joints and waking the body up in an easy, less stressful way than jumping out of bed!
According to the American College of Sports Medicine, stretching can also help improve blood flow throughout the body – and to the brain. When there is an adequate amount of blood flow going to the brain, it will increase concentration and sharpen your senses. It is also not a good idea to “jump up and go,” as this can be a shock to your system and heart. Coming out of sleep, where you lay still for a number of hours, slows down the heartrate and breathing.
Most importantly is that you try to do 1 / more of these stretches before you “get up and go.” Stretching not only protects the body from injuries, but it also teaches you what your body’s range of motion is, even doing something as simple as bending down to tie a shoelace, or comb the back of your hair. Therefore, try to be as gently as possible with your body when waking up….in other words, stretch to fully awaken your body and mind.
Stretching before you go to sleep is also a good idea if you are stiff from a day of sitting and/or exercising. This will help the muscles to release protein acid build-up, get rid of stress (for example tight shoulders and/or necks), get the oxygen and blood flowing again and help you to relax.
So; take a deep breath in, stretch your limbs, and exhale…now you are ready to take on the world…or sleep like a log!
I’m sure many of you have read, spoke and contemplated a lot on how to safe more and spend less. A study indicated that many South Africans, especially the young adults, do not put money away towards retirement and/or “a rainy day!” Research done overseas, indicated that very few people, regardless of their age, put money away.
In these times where many things are just getting more-and-more expensive, it can be quite tricky to have any money left to put away! However, whether it is R10 ($10) a week or R100 ($100) a week, every little bit counts and, as the saying goes “the pennies make the pounds.”
Here are a few tips to help kick-start your financial freedom:
Reading personal finance-books or listening to podcasts while driving
One of the best ways to learn is to study and educate yourself. Whether you want to know how the stock market works, or need advice on managing your finances better, all you need is a few hours to either browse through the bookstore or online and find something that speaks to you.
Pay of any short-term debt(s)
Whether it is a credit card, store card or short-term loan, try to pay it off as quickly as you can. Otherwise it starts to pile up and cost far more (think of interest charged) than anticipated.
Start to build an emergency fund
This could be a separate bank account, for example, where money is paid into in case of emergencies (car accident, unforeseen maintenance on the house / car, and so forth). Experts advise that the emergency fund should have enough money for at least 3 months in order to sustain you and your family.
Tracking your credit card rating
Experts agree that it is a good idea to track your credit rating, especially when you are buying property. You can either contact a registered credit bureau or visit their website.
Recording and tracking what you spend on a daily or monthly base
A good idea is to “keep book” to track how much you spend and on what. This is a great and easy way to make you aware of any unnecessary expenses and/or if you are overspending. It also teaches you to become more mindful about what you spend your money on, how much you spend, and whether / not it is a need or a want (read my article on Mindfulness for easy-to-do tips about being more mindful).
Creating a budget and sticking to it as much as possible
Instead of allowing your spending to determine your budget, let your budget determine your spending. It is important to stick to it, especially if you have debt. The rule-of-thumb is to first pay what has to be paid, for example electricity, rent, petrol, food, and so on. Then make sure there is money to pay of any credit card / other debt.
Lastly, if there is any money left, put some aside for entertainment / treats; but don’t forget to put money away towards savings!
When you have kept track on your expenses for a month or two, you quickly get an idea if any money is spent on nonessentials. Then you can start to cut back and instead of eating out twice a week, for example, you can change by only eating out once a month and save the rest.
Saving made easy(ier)
Many people struggle to save and instead, spend money on nonessentials. So, what is a better option? Automating it! By putting in an automatic transfer either at the beginning or end of each month, you cannot spend the money because you don’t have it but you also don’t think about “what to buy” with it anymore.
Closing any non-used accounts
When you have accounts, like store cards, open but not using it anymore, the banks and / or stores still charge you for the cards. Close them and only keep that which you use.
Thinking long-term and not just short-term
Once you have established a good, working plan for your short-term financing, start to think long-term. You can ask questions like Where do I want to be in 5 years? Within how many years do I want to pay off my car? How much money can I put away each month toward paying off debt / towards retirement?
When you’re out grocery shopping, you often come home with more than what you wanted. Making a list is a good way to buy only what is needed. However, when it comes to non-perishables, one can buy in bulk. This will save you money for the next few months and, with prices going up the way they are, it is an easy way to save.
This, however, should only be done if you can afford to do it, so again be mindful about what you need to buy in order to save in the long run, and what not to buy as it isn’t a necessity.
Another good tip is to not to misuse your credit card(s)
Many people will use the one card for spending, while using the other card to pay off debt. Whether it is clothes and other nonessential items that you buy, the best advice I got growing up is: when you buy property, for example, pay it off completely before installing a swimming pool or buying that new car.
In today’s modern world, it is easy and quick to use a card instead of cash. However, whether or not you have the cash in your hand or not, keep track on how much you spend and on what. Adults and children alike will benefit from saving – setting an example for your children is vital – in the end everybody will reap the rewards!
Being in debt is not just detrimental to your financial health, but it can also be detrimental to your personal relationships, as well as your physical- and emotional health. Various symptoms can develop due to financial worries – sleepless nights, stress, being agitated and fighting, becoming depressed, not eating properly, and other symptoms. Did you know that, the thought of getting a late payment notice, for example, doesn’t just make you uncomfortable? It will also cause rapid heartbeat, shortness of breath, dry mouth, headaches and the shakes!
Thus, buckle up, become mindful and start saving today! Every rand and cent saved will give you the financial freedom you want, it will create and maintain healthy relationships, and you will have a healthy body, mind and spirit!
Whether you love to walk barefoot, in sandals, or live in a dryer climate than the coast, one’s heels (and often our elbows) tend to suffer!
I am sure everyone has, at one stage or another, had cracked heels! This is because our feet are exposed more to the elements from wearing sandals or walking barefoot. Don’t be fooled – wearing the wrong shoes, or same pair of shoes every day, can also play a role.
Why does it happen? In a nutshell; when the skin is either exposed to the elements or to pressure from walking, the skin around the heels thicken and harden as a protective measure. The harder and thicker the skin becomes, the bigger chance you have of developing corns or calluses.
The cushions under the toes can also thicken and harden to protect itself; so make sure to take care of that part of the feet too. This often happens when you are wearing the wrong shoes, very high heels, or the same pair of shoes each day.
Indeed, children have to wear school shoes every day. But it is always a good idea to tell them to walk barefoot at home or swop the shoes for another pair. The same tip an be given to adults. During the lovely warm, summer days, it is advisable to walk barefoot as much as possible.
If not allergic or sensitive to grass, it is a good idea to walk in the garden barefoot as well. Not only will it massage the feet and stimulate blood flow and circulation, but it will also ground you again and give you a massage. During winter it is a good idea to keep your feet, just like the rest of your body, well-moisturized. Using a good cream / heal balm, as well as drinking plenty of water and other fluids, will keep your skin hydrated. The dryer your skin, the more hydration you need – both internally as well as externally.
There are various products on the market that treats dry, cracked heels. One can also use natural, homemade products. Here are a few products to use:
1. Vegetable Oil
A variety of vegetable oils can be used to treat and prevent cracked heels. Olive oil, sesame oil, coconut oil or any other hydrogenated vegetable oil will work. For best results, use this remedy before going to bed to allow ample time for the oil to fully penetrate your skin.
2. Rice Flour
Exfoliating the skin on your feet and heels will help remove dead skin, thus preventing cracking and dryness. Rice flour can be used a part of a homemade exfoliating scrub.
3. Indian Lilac
Indian lilac, also known as margosa leaves or neem, is an effective remedy for your cracked feet, especially when they become itchy and infected. Neem soothes a dry, irritated skin and fights off infection too, thanks to its fungicidal properties. If you’ve never used it before, try a small area first.
The acidic property in lemons can be very effective in softening rough skin that leads to cracking. You can either used sliced lemons or just the juice. When using sliced lemons, you can keep them in place by wearing socks overnight. Otherwise, massaging lemon juice into the heels after exfoliating it with a pumice stone, can also do the trick.
5. Rosewater and Glycerine
The combination of glycerine and rose water makes an effective home treatment for cracked heels. Glycerine softens the skin, which is why it is widely used in cosmetics. Rose water adds vitamins A, B3, C, D, and E as well as antioxidant, anti-inflammatory and antiseptic properties.
6. Paraffin Wax
If the condition of the cracks on your heels is really bad and causing a lot of pain, a paraffin wax treatment can provide quick relief. It works as a natural emollient to soften your skin.
7. Epsom Salt
If you have cracked heels, it’s important to take extra care to keep your heels well moisturized. You can do this simply with an Epsom salt or a sea salt foot soak. It will also help improve circulation, is a great way of getting rid of toxins in the body and also balances the body’s pH-levels. Combining the salt with a few drops of lavender oil also helps to relax the feet and get rid of tension / stiffness.
Ripe bananas are one of the cheapest home remedies for cracked and dry heels, thanks to their moisturizing properties. You can make a paste by mashing a banana and leaving the paste on for 10 – 15 minutes, or you can use the banana peels.
Honey has moisturizing and antibacterial properties, making it an excellent treatment for dry and cracked heels. Many hand-, foot- and body lotions add honey and/or coconut milk to their products. Both are good products that helps to lock the moisture in.
10. Petroleum Jelly
You can use petroleum jelly on dry, rough skin to prevent cracked heels and leave your feet soft and well moisturized, as well as on other parts of the body that are exposed to the elements (elbows and lips, for example).
Moisturizing every time after a bath or shower is another good idea. While the skin is still warm, the moisturizer will be absorbed faster.
Lastly, don’t underestimate good old fashion Vaseline! There are so many different brands to choose from today. The best tip is to look for a product that is rich, but not oily, has added vitamin E, glycerine, and/or argan oil, jojoba oil, coconut oil, or any other ingredient in, that will give your skin an extra boost during winter.
It is also a good idea to put cotton socks on after your feet has been exfoliated and moisturized. The socks will help with the absorption of the moisturizer, while at the same time keeping your heels soft.
As I mentioned earlier – make sure to drink plenty of water! A dry, flaky / cracked skin is often a sign that you need to up your water intake, as well as adding more Omega 3 & 6-oils to your diet.
Our feet are the one part of the body that we sometimes neglect, but the part of the body that does a lot of work! So; whether you go for a pedicure or treat yourself to a homemade recipe, keeping your heels soft will keep calluses and corns at bay!
Whether it is decorating your home, buying a new wardrobe for the new season, or spring cleaning, the new buzzword is minimalism!
Minimalism started during the 60s and 70s as an art and visual cultural movement; promoting the idea that “less is more” and that unnecessary possessions need to go. Today, however, you read and hear about many people “scaling down” (and that doesn’t mean that they only move into smaller spaces). People are becoming more conscious that a life built on consumerism, materialism and “stuff,” is, in fact, not what real life is all about!
More people are also becoming more aware of protecting our natural resources and environment, thus minimalism is about decluttering / spring cleaning your life – both physically and mentally.
It is a lifestyle where you get rid of objects, relationships and expenditure that don’t add value or meaning to your life anymore. For example, instead of buying something because you like it or want it just to have it, you stop and ask yourself: do I really need it? If you don’t need it, then you don’t buy it. Simple? No; easier said than done sometimes!!
Joseph Becker, author of “The More of Less: finding the life you want under everything you own,” says “Our money is only as valuable as what we choose to spend it on.”
The same applies for our emotions, our energy and our time. Relationships are only valuable if they bring meaning into your life, lift you up and make you want to spend your time and energy with that person.
Another example of living this way can be found on Theminimalists.com-website and the Netflix documentary, Minimalism. Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus were living the American dream: big houses filled with lots of stuff, high paid jobs, executive roles, big cars, expensive holidays, and so forth.
However, none of these material stuff brought them real happiness. They decided to make the change and are now travelling the world to tell people about it and to teach people how to make the changes. There are 3 steps to follow:
- Declutter and make space for what you value: look at your home. How much time do you spend “reshuffling” things from one cupboard to the next? When was the last time that you used something or wore something?
According to Joshua and Ryan physical clutter (the stuff in your home and/or office) can spread to your mental space. Thus, the first step to sort this out would be to start with one room or one cupboard at a time and decide what is of value and purpose and what to get rid of. As you sort out and declutter it’ll help you to start thinking more critically about decisions you make daily and, in turn, you’ll start to live more with intention. If you are an emotional shopper, or buy things because you are lonely, get help. Talk to a family member or friend that you trust and take the necessary steps to figure out how to change your behaviour and/or your life.
- Love people, use things: In the modern, materialistic world, materialistic things have become, unfortunately, substitutes for deep, meaningful relationships and connections. There are many people who love things more than they love people and, deep down, themselves. The big question is: is those Facebook-relationships real? Are your relationships with work colleagues’ true friendships or are they actually just acquaintances? Becoming minimalistic mean that you want relationships that add value to your life; you want to spend time and energy with somebody that has the same values as you, and in return you add value to their lives. “Being chained by obligation to a relationship is disingenuous, a false loyalty birthed from pious placation,” says Joshua.
- Prioritise without the excuses: Do you wish you had more money to save or invest? Go through your bills at the end of the month and decide what do you need to buy / pay, what do you want / like to have but don’t need. Slowly but surely start to cut out the “wants” on your list; then progress and cut out the “likes” as well. In the end, you will retrain yourself to only buy things like shoes, clothes, kitchenware, that you truly need. This will leave you with extra cash at the end of each month and soon you can save more or pay off your debt faster. If extra time is what you need, then do the same.
In essence minimalism is not just about spring cleaning or decluttering your home and office space. It is a practical way of living and entails cleaning out your life on a financial, material, spiritual and emotional level. The main purpose is to live your life with intention, purpose and meaning. It is a way of living in balance with nature and your inner self. By decluttering everything in your life, you not only feel lighter, but you have more me-time, more time to spend with those you love, more time to do what you want to in life (travel, read, sleep).
Minimalism does not require a person / family to get rid of a love / passion (for example collecting art), if it adds value to your life. Instead, think of it as “scaling down,” moving into a smaller space and having to take only that which you can fit into it with you.
There are various channels on YouTube where people move into Tiny Homes; some move into an RV or van because they want to travel the world. These people are good examples of minimalism.
At the end of the day, whether you call it minimalism, decluttering or spring cleaning, it all boils down to living in harmony and balance with both spirit and nature. It is a way of life and what better example to set for your children, friends, family, colleagues, and so forth, than to show them that living a life where happiness, self-confidence, self-worth and belonging is not linked to or found in material possessions and money, but in what we choose to value and to live an authentic life; one that is lived responsibly (not just to each other, but also to nature and oneself) and with integrity. As the saying goes: when you are born, you come into this world with nothing; when you die, you leave this world with nothing! Give it a try!
Every year, hundreds of children and adults drown because they cannot swim. Learning to swim; at any age, is crucial. Especially in a country where we most of us head to the swimming pool, coast and/or dams, during the upcoming summer months.
I recently spoke to Patricia Groenewald, owner and swimming coach of “Pat’s Swim School” (in South Africa), about the importance of learning to swim.
“Every child needs to know how to swim in order to survive in and around water,” says Patricia. She believes that swimming lessons should be compulsory and non-negotiable and part of every child’s education. Patricia added that, although swimming is mainly an extramural activity, it must not be seen as an extravagance, but rather as one of the best investments made by a parent (s).
The latest statistics for drowning in South Africa are increasing; with over more than 600 reported and recorded cases every year! These figures paint a grim picture and is all the more reason to enrol a child (ren) in swimming lessons. Not only to teach them a vital life skill, but it will also greatly enhance, promote and improve their auditory and visual skills. Add to that building overall muscle tone and bone density, optimises respiratory function, teaches coordination and body space awareness, is a low-impact sport / exercise regime, teaches children to work on their own and in a team, teaches children about managing their time properly, and it is something that can be done for years and years!
As a parent / guardian / teacher, there are a few tips for keeping children safe:
- Be responsible: teach the child(ren) to ask and adult if they may swim or not; and always ensure that someone is on hand to keep an eye on them while they are in the pool;
- Drop the distractions while you, as adult, supervise: no phone call, reading, looking at photos on your phone or having an intense conversation, is more important than vigilant supervision. The American Red Cross said that most children who drown at home were out of sight for “less than 5 minutes and in the care of one or both parents at the time!”;
- Know the numbers: it is important to pre-programme emergency numbers into your cell phone and/or memorizing it;
- Be prepared: make sure everyone in the family can swim. If not, sign up for lessons as it is important for everyone not to just swim, but also to hold your own in the water. It is also not a lost skill to enrol in a water safety course and/or basic fist aid. The NSRI has plenty of online resources to get you started, as well as Netcare 911. If uncertain where to go, ask your local gym or a swim school coach.
- Be vigilant: pool toys like noodles, boards and floatable ducks, and water wings, can help, but it should never replace adult supervision;
- Secure the surroundings: use proper fences, netting or covers, and exercise caution when the deck and areas around the pool is wet. This year a new law has been passed with regards to the proper closure of pools – make sure everyone knows about it. Unfortunately, your private pool might be properly secured but your neighbour / friend’s pool not…
- Wear the required gear: boaters, kayakers and even anglers should always wear a life jacket. It might not “look cool” but it can save your life;
- Act fast: when a child is missing, check the water first! It can take a couple of seconds to a couple of minutes for a child to drown. The longer a person stays under water, the bigger chance he / she has to either die or be left with a permanent disability;
- Caution when diving: if you don’t know how deep the water is (especially in a dam or river), do not dive in. I know of a young man who did it, only to be paralyzed from the neck down, because it wasn’t as deep as he thought!
- No swimming when drinking: best to not swim when you had alcohol and/or drugs. Even painkillers and/or other medications can make you drowsy (especially when you are in the sun as well);
- Stay within the parameters: when you are on the beach, listen to the lifeguards and stay within the safety of the beacons. Teach your children from a young age to always keep an eye on the beacons too;
- Listen to lifeguards: whether at a municipal swimming pool, the beach, or at a common property pool (for example in a complex), always adhere to the rules. Rules are not meant to dampen your fun in the water, but it is there to keep you and your family safe!
According to Netcare 911, parents and guardians must remember that it is not just swimming pools and the sea that can pose a danger to children. Any water mass can potentially be dangerous (especially if the child is still young). A shallow bathtub or bucket filled with water can also be harmful, because a small child can easily drown in a few centimetres of water!
Keep in mind that “our world is 71% water; and your child(ren) is(are) 100% curious.”
Therefore; be vigilant, stay safe and take the necessary steps to protect your child(ren) whilst enjoying the water!
Happy summer to all my followers in the Northern Hemisphere!
For my readers in the Northern Hemisphere, who are enjoying warmer, sunnier days, here are some tips and tricks. And for those of you in the Southern Hemisphere, write it down and/or reread the post before you head up into the not too distant summer days 😉
1. Freeze aloe vera in ice cube trays for sunburn relief. Aloe vera is a natural anti-inflammatory and antiseptic. You can get it at any pharmacy or outlets selling Aloe vera-products;
2. Make lip gloss out of melted lipstick! Before you throw it away, try using it to give you a bit of a tint. The other alternative is to wear lip gloss with a spf 15 during the day;
3. Have a go-to silk scarf on hand for a quick and stylish up do on hot summer days! Wrap it around your neck or around your hair to change your look from beachgoer to ready for lunch / dinner;
4. Avoid powdering your face to hide sweat. Instead, carry oil-blotting sheets to keep pores from clogging. Spraying some water mist over your face, or splashing it with some cool water can also help to keep pores from clogging and your face from sweating;
5. Create a coffee mask to fight the heat and decrease puffiness. Coffee is high in antioxidants and can help to ease inflammatory skin. Do be careful if you got sunburn on your face. Rather stay clear of exfoliating-masks and opt for something like yogurt and/or honey-mask. This will cool your face, as well as help to get rid of the burn and the redness of the sunburn;
6. Get rid of sweat stains by spraying some lemon juice on your clothes just before washing them. Lemon juice acts like bleach. Want your hair to be lighter? Or more blond? Put some lemon juice on!
7. Use a raw potato to fix puffy tired eyes. Refrigerate a raw sliced potato, and lay the cool slices on your eyes to get that fresh-faced look back after a long night. Cucumber-slices can also do the trick;
8. Using some baby powder will help with a chub rub! It is smooth, light, and leaves your skin ready for the heat;
9. If your hair tends to frizz when you’re at the coast, then spray a toothbrush with some hairspray (anti-frizz spray) and comb. Or just tie it up, wear a hat or band, and let it be;
10. On hot summer days, most people tend to sweat. To avoid sweat stains ruining a silk shirt, place pantyliners in the armpits of shirts;
11. Another mix to create natural highlights in your hair, is to apply a mixture of coconut oil, lemon juice, water and a bit of salt, before going to the beach or pool;
12. If you have coloured your hair, use a leave-in conditioner with an SPF on;
13. Instead of using the hairdryer, why not let your hair dry naturally? Not only is it good for the hair but it will also give your scalp a time to breathe;
14. Suffering from an oily skin? Try using milk of magnesia as a primer for an oil-free, matte skin. Put it on after your moisturizer before your daily makeup routine for a shine free skin;
15. Another facial mask to help cool down your skin, is to use a tomato-based mask. If you are not sunburnt, add some sugar for a scrub. Tomatoes will naturally help to cool the skin down;
16. Anti-perspirant roll-ons are excellent to use when you’re out in the sun. Unlike deodorant, a roll-on makes you feel fresh for longer and doesn’t mix with sweat easily; especially if you opt for an anti-perspirant one. That is not the only use for deodorants…you can also swipe the back of your neck with it to help keep you cool and prevent sweat from ruining your straightened hair;
16. Using crushed aspirin to remove a bikini rash?! Aspirin contains salicylic acid that helps exfoliate and smooth bikini bumps quickly. Mix the crushed pills with honey and/or water to get rid of ingrown hairs and redness;
17. Instead of using your towel to dry your hair, use a cotton T-shirt instead! This, apparently, will keep your hair from frizzing;
18. A creme blush works better with sweat than powder. Another great make-up tool is beads (like the Avon Glow pearls). It’ll give you colour but will not run due to sweat. Another good idea is to buy a powder-based primer. This will even out your skin tone, and at the same time protect it from the sun (most primers have an SPF 15 in). Do make use of sunscreen if you are not wearing make-up and you’re in the sun. Less is more and, when on holiday, why not opt for a more natural look?
21. Want to use your razor blades longer? Then preserve them by soaking it in olive oil! This will also prevent them from rusting in high humidity-places;
22. Struggling to get rid of dry, cracked heels? If you’re lucky enough to be at the beach this holiday, walk barefoot on the sand. The sand is a natural exfoliator and it also massages the whole foot! It is important to walk barefoot whenever possible, as it not only relaxes the muscles in the feet, but it also massages them and let them breathe! So; take off the sandals, the flipflops, and feel the earth under your feet. Remember to put some Vaseline or other moisturizer on your feet and heels after your bath / shower. Wearing cotton socks overnight can also help the skin to absorb the cream better;
Summer is a time to enjoy being outdoors. Whether going for an early morning jog or walk, having a braai, lazing around the pool or on the beach, enjoy the sun.
Just remember: drink more water, stay out of the sun when it’s at its peak (between 11 am and 2 pm), wear sunglasses to protect your eyes, a sunhat and put on sunscreen!
According to the Oxford dictionary mindful refers to “taking thought or care of.” What exactly does it mean? In many magazines there are articles written about it; life coaches tell people to be more mindful when they are working, eating, communicating, socializing and even when they are stressing!
So, let’s explore! Being mindful refers to being present, being in the now, and being aware of your thoughts and actions. Mindfulness is when you focus on your actions, words and thoughts. For example, instead of eating and watching television at the same time, sit down around the dining room table and enjoy the meal. Be aware of what you eat, what it tastes like, smells like and, if you are with others, enjoy being together, sharing a meal.
Being in the now (in the present) is another way to look at mindfulness. When you are in the now or present in the moment, you are aware of your thoughts, words, actions and that of the other person(s). There is no hanging on the past or worrying about the future. You are fully present in today; in the moment.
Not easy but worth a try! When you are present and aware, you start to see and appreciate people and things more; you build strong relationships (both with yourself and with family, friends and colleagues), and most of all, you “see and enjoy” nature and life! In today’s world, where many people are rushed, stressed, tired and/or overworked, it is not easy to savour a moment and just “be,” because our minds race back into the past (where regrets live) or into the future (where worries / stress reside).
When you are in the now, you savour each moment and enjoy everything you see and/or hear (like the birds singing or a beautiful flower). This causes your body to respond by excreting serotonin (happy hormones) and your mind start to practice being fully present in a moment. When you worry about things gone by or about things that did not yet happen, you start to over-analyse, stress and worry, and stop enjoying the moment, the surroundings, the people, and so forth.
How do one go about being more mindful? Well, as the word implies; it all starts in your mind. When you change your thoughts and thought-patterns everything around you start to change and your perception of a situation / person changes as well. Think of energy: like attracts like; negative attracts negative. In order to change the outside (your perspective on life, your reactions to situations / people and your overall view of everything and everyone), you need to change the inside. A well-known speaker and author, Suzie Orman said: “Your thoughts create your feelings, your feelings create your words, your words create your actions, and your actions create your destiny!”
Start with baby-steps. Take a deep breath in and zoom in on the task at hand / the place you are in at the moment and stop your thoughts from running away. What is done, is done and what hasn’t been done yet, will still be done. There is time. Focus on what needs to be done now and it’ll be done faster and without the unnecessary stress. Many psychologists and teachers believe that minimal stress can be good, but overstressing, overanalysing, worrying, and so forth, are not. In fact, many believe that negative emotions, feelings and words, are fear-driven and stems from our ego’s. When we can get the ego out of the way (as it were), then we can say, do and be in the present more mindfully and more cheerfully. When there is lots to do, make a list and prioritize what must be done first. Then tick it off the list once it has been done. This will help you to stay focused and it’ll keep you more relaxed; knowing that things are getting done.
Sometimes things can get too much and we often find ourselves not knowing where to start. Watch your thoughts! Instead of saying “I’m overwhelmed, I’m so tired, I’m so stressed,” and so forth, stop and change it immediately. We are not just flesh and bones, but have emotions, a spirit and a soul as well. Whatever you constantly say to yourself, will be picked up by the body and the physical outcome(s) – in the beforementioned examples – will be tiredness, stress, quick temperedness, and even depression. Many illnesses like colds, flu and cancers, stem from being overstressed, overworked and wanting to do too many things at a time.
If you find it difficult, write a positive statement on a piece of paper and stick it somewhere where you will see it. For example, “Today I choose to be happy and healthy” or “Today I have the energy to finish all my tasks” or “I am full of energy and I choose to see the positive in everything and everyone.”
Another tip to help you get through all your workload is to delegate. At home, for example, you can work together as a team, each member having a certain task(s) to do in and around the house. At work, if you cannot delegate, stick with a to do-list and prioritize what has to be done first. Stay focused, check your thoughts, be aware of what you think and feel, and deep breathes. Using a dairy or a calendar can make life much easier and help you to stay focused on your to do-lists.
All in all, mindfulness should not be seen as something that only some people can achieve. Anybody and everybody can change their perspective, thus changing the outcome. All you need to do is make a conscious decision and then do it! We are never too young or too old to start being in the present and to stop worrying about what is past and what is future. It is only the now that counts. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow is not yet here….so why worry?
Be mindful, be aware, be present, be in the now, and savour every minute of every day. As my granddad used to say: “If you worry you die, if you don’t worry you might also die. So why worry?”