What a small change can do for you

I don’t know about you, but there are times in my life when I just need a change.  Whether it is a change in my wardrobe, a new haircut or changing the décor or layout in a room, making a change makes a huge difference.

Most people spring-clean once a year; others regularly go through their stuff and throw out what is not being used anymore.  Decluttering both our homes, office, cupboards and our minds, not only bring peace and joy into our lives, but it is as if we feel “lighter.”  It always amazes me to listen to people who literally just travel with 1 or 2 suitcases and that is all!  Even though I have been decluttering the last couple of years, there are still some things in my home that I am not ready to part with.  My shell collection, for example, is something that is rare to find these days.  My memorabilia from my days of travelling, is another example. 

In the past I also kept things that was my gran’s, purely for sentimental reasons. Luckily that has changed.  Now I got to a point in my life where I realized that I should only keep things that I either use regularly and/or brings me joy.  These changes, albeit small, does make a difference.  Even just having my haircut makes me feel “lighter.” 

Change (-s) can be daunting; especially if it is not something that was planned or expected.  Many people go into panic-mode when these types of changes happen and that is ok.  However, you should never let any kind of change drag you down for long periods.  Change is inevitable and, as the saying goes, the only constant in life!  It is the way we deal with change that can either bring us lots of tears or lots of joy. 

If you are trying to lose weight, for example, but don’t know where to start, then start small.  Instead of taking the lift, use the stairs; instead of parking your car close to the shopping mall-entrance, park further away.  If you are trying to cut back on what you eat / snack on, start by eating less / smaller portions.  Many people cannot go “cold turkey” straight away, thus give yourself time and take it step by step. Small changes might not seem like you have achieved much, but it doesn’t matter what others think.  It matters only what you think, what you do, and the commitment you have to bring about change in your life.

Changes can be anything from a new haircut, hair colour, new outfit, new furniture or simply re-arranging furniture or replacing small things like scatter cushions.  It is amazing what a new look (either your look or that of your home) can do on your psyche.  If you need inspiration, just look outside.  Nature provides us with so many colours and fragrances throughout the year; showing us that change is and can be beautiful. 

Whatever change (-s) you want to make, just do it!  Regardless what it is, know that you are doing it for yourself.  If you want to redecorate but have a limited budget, try some DIY or look around at second hand- or charity shops.  Changing the colour of your cushions can change the look of a room, for example.  A haircut or a new outfit can also change your mood.  Whatever it is that you’d like to change, just start.  If it is something big, then take it one day at a time.  Just start and keep going!

Detoxing

Last month, I decided to join my mom in a detoxing-diet. You start off by eating only fruits at mealtimes and/or in-between as snacks, for a week.  Caffeine is cut out; only herbal teas (without sugar and milk) or water is allowed.  Week 2 allows you to add a slice of bread (whole-wheat or rye), with some honey on.  In week 3, you are allowed to add a baked potato and yogurt to your mix, as well as vegetables.  In week 4, you start eating fish and chicken again.  After that, you can go back to eating and drinking what you did before.

I didn’t eat fruits alone, I must admit.  Not only did I suffer from headaches (probably due to the detoxing), but, because I have low blood sugar, I felt dizzy.  Thus, I added some protein to my meals, for example I snacked on a few nuts and ate some cheese or chicken.  Instead of bread, we ate crackers (whole-wheat or rye), at first, then added the bread.

What we also took is a good vitamin B-supplement, Calcium- & Magnesium-supplement, a multi-vitamin, as well as Lecithin.  Although we are not following this diet anymore, we continue to take our “regular” vitamins every other day.

As many of you know, I am not an advocate for diets in general.  I do believe that it is important to eat from all the food groups; as long as you watch the portion size and amount you eat.  This detoxing-diet was given to my late gran, as a way to help her detox from all the painkillers she was on for her back problems.  Fasting is another good way to detox.  There are people who fast for a day, others for longer.  Before you go on any type of detoxing-program, please consult your medical practitioner and a professional first, especially if you have any health issues. 

The question, I am sure, on your mind is whether or not we lost any weight?!  Not according to the scale!  However, our clothes are loose-fitting and in general, we feel better.  During winter we both ate more starch and cutting down on that, made a difference – especially biscuits and rusks!  What I found is that I don’t crave red meat so much anymore.  I was never a lover of red meat (although I prefer lamb above beef), but at the moment, I am happy to eat chicken and fish. 

Another change that we made is to eat more alkaline-based foods.  Eating plenty of starch, can make your body more acidic.  This causes the pH-level to become unstable, which creates dis-eases, illnesses, and so forth.  Drinking an acid/alkaline powder, for example A. Vogel’s powder, once a week, is a great way to help maintain a balanced pH-level.  This is also a wonderful product that helps with arthritis and gout, caused by acid build-up in the body.

All in all, this detox-diet wasn’t difficult to follow (although I had to add protein to keep me from getting dizzy).  Will I completely eliminate biscuits and rusks?  No, I enjoy baking too much!  Having a rusk, biscuit or any other treat is ok; it is the amount you eat that makes the difference!  I believe our bodies crave more starch during winter as a “fuel” to keep us warm.  During summer you want salads, fruits and “lighter” foods.  Therefore, as I always say, listen to your body and enjoy your food!!

How animals deal with seasonal changes

Many people believe that you should go out into nature, or turn to nature, for advice, relaxing, healing and regaining focus / balance.  The reason?  I think it depends on each person individually, but nature is really and truly a source of inspiration, calm and energy.  Animals are not stressed when it comes to seasonal changes.  Indeed, there are times when food is scarce, when they also feel the heat or cold, must look for shelter, and so forth.  However, in general, animals truly know how to just “flow with it.”  They live each day to their fullest and make the most of it.

Many people in today’s rushed, modern society, where we are being bombarded by technology, has lost touch with their inner voice, their instincts.  Animals, on the other hand, rely solely and truly and their gut feelings / instinct, to be able to survive and thrive.  When seasons change, so too do their behaviour.  Animals know when it is time to start building a shelter / nest for the new arrivals, they know when is a good time to have new arrivals, and they know where to look for food, and the like.

Many, many years ago, there was no electricity; thus, people went to bed when to bed when it got dark (like the animals) and got up when the sun came out (also like animals).  Life was simpler and maybe more in-balance, because both man and animal, went with the natural rhythms of mother nature.  Today there is electricity and people working night shifts and sleeping during the day – how things changed!

Coming back to animals.  How do they deal with the seasonal changes?  For starters, they make sure to gather enough food that will last them through the winter.  They also make sure to have a safe “home” to stay in.  Bears, for example, go into hibernation during the winter months and “wake up” again when it gets warmer again.  Others, like some bird species, fly away to warmer countries and come back after winter (especially in the Northern Hemisphere).

Domesticated animals are different.  They rely on us, as humans, to make sure that they are fed and has a place to sleep.  Sadly, there are thousands of unwanted dogs and cats, that you see in every country, roaming the streets.  It saddens me to think that people will actually just drop a puppy off, in the middle of the road or at a shop, and walk away; regardless of the temperatures outside!

Animals (domesticated and wild), should be looked after.  As humans we can learn a lot from them.  We can learn to live in the present moment, to make sure we have enough food, clothing, money, and so forth, to see us through the “rainy days.”  When it comes to feeling moody due to the weather, just remind yourself that this too shall pass.  No matter the season, there is always something in nature that is beautiful.  A tree without any leaves can make a beautiful silhouette on a blue canvas.  Watching a bird building his nest is just amazing to see.

Both animals and humans, I believe, want a place to call home, a partner and/or family, and food.  Indeed, animals can also become lonely, sad, scared; but maybe, by living day-to-day, it is easier to go through seasonal changes.  When we accept that it is a natural cycle, then we can flow with it instead of resisting it.  So, dear readers, whichever season you like (or not), look to nature whenever you need some inspiration or want to recharge your batteries!

Other uses for Cinnamon, Fennel, Fenugreek and Black Pepper

Cinnamon

Cinnamon is a well-known and well-used spice in many households.  Whether it is used in puddings, milk tart or pancakes, but many other things.  Cinnamon is high in antioxidants and cinnamaldehyde works against blood platelet clotting.  It is good for arthritis, especially rheumatoid arthritis, it stops the growth of harmful bacteria, for example candida and it helps to maintain a healthy colon.  It also boosts brain function and controls blood sugar levels (can be used by diabetics). 

Fennel

Fennel is used in many Italian dishes. It can help alleviate severe period pains and aids digestion.  Grind it into a power and add it to salads, soups, stews or curries.  You can also add fennel seeds to your green tea.  Fennel is also good to use to help you detox.

Fenugreek

Fenugreek seed extract reduces weight gain induced by a high-fat diet.  Adding the leaves to your sandwiches, salads, soups or curries, is an easy way to use Fenugreek. The seeds can also be grinded to make Garam Masala; add it to a dish or use it as a meat-rub.

Black Pepper

Black pepper contains antioxidants, which aids in lowering the risk of diseases like cardiovascular disease, atherosclerosis and neurological conditions.  It aids in digestion- and intestinal health and supports the immune system.  Due to its strong taste, black pepper brings out the nutrients and flavours when you add it to meat.  Do take care, however, if you do have a sensitive stomach, as too much black pepper powder, can spoil a dish.  It can be added to macaroni and cheese, to bring out the flavours, or to any other dish.

There are so many other herbs and spices that you can use in the kitchen, in almost any (if not all) dishes – from drinks, to salads, main courses, deserts and the like, that it is too many to mention here.  I will, however, in a later blogpost, look into this again, as many people want to use more natural remedies these days.  In the meantime, always make sure that, whatever you use, is safe; especially if you have a health condition or if you are pregnant.

Want to lose weight? Add these spices to your daily diet

Cinnamon / Dalchinni

Widely used in Indian kitchens, Cinnamon can help you to lose weight quickly.  It is packed with antioxidants and anti-inflammatory properties.  Drinking a spoonful of cinnamon in water, or adding it to your porridge, will also increase your metabolic rate, which will aid in weight loss.  Diabetics, who are insulin resistant, the carbohydrates eaten converts to sugar, which doesn’t get metabolized.  This, in turn, converts into fat.  Cinnamon will step in and break this cycle.

Fennel / Saunf

This spice acts as a natural water pill and suppresses hunger.  It can be added to your food or tea.  Not only is it an antioxidant (that helps improve your metabolism) and aids digestion, but it is also rich in vitamins, for example A, C and D.


Fenugreek

Fenugreek can help to suppress any food cravings due to its natural fibre content.  It helps stop you from binge-eating and can decrease your dietary fat and calorie intake. 

Black Pepper

Black pepper boosts the metabolism due to its phytonutrient-content.  Add it to your green tea or your food and see the kilo’s / pounds fall off. 

Just a note of caution – if you suffer from a sensitive stomach, are pregnant or have any other health issues, please consult your medical practitioner first, if you are not sure whether / not to use any of the above spices.  All in all, never use too much.  Eating healthy, drinking enough water and staying active are key to losing and maintaining a healthy body.  The spices are “helpers” in aiding weight loss.  Your lifestyle, in general, determine whether / not you lose weight (and keep it off).

In next week’s blog, I will give you ideas (apart from baking biscuits), how to use these spices.  Indeed, it is used in many dishes and also drinks; but I will share with you a few ideas (recipes) that you may / may not have heard / read about…until then!

As the seasons change, so too does your beauty-routine

Some of my readers are getting ready for cold, winter months.  Others are getting ready for warm, sunny days (myself included!).  When the seasons change it is important to make a few changes to your health- and beauty routine.  As mentioned in a previous blogpost, making sure to up your intake of vitamins C and taking vitamin D, as well as drinking more water, is key.  Vitamin C is a water-soluble vitamin, which means that your body doesn’t store it.  Some good advice I got recently, was to drink vitamin C in the morning and in the evening; it is a great way to boost your immune system and to keep colds and flu at bay. 

Vitamin D is an important vitamin; not only for keeping the immune system strong as well, but also to keep depression and feelings of despair, at bay.  A recent study indicated that 94% of people living in Europe and the UK, don’t have enough vitamin D in their systems.  It is understandable, as the sun is not as hot as in the Southern Hemisphere and many “Northerners” don’t go out into the sun that much.  Even if they do, their bodies don’t absorb enough sunlight for vitamin D-intake.

Drinking enough water is important, regardless of the seasons.  In winter months our skin tends to become drier due to the colder and/or drier weather.  Being indoors with central heating is wonderful, but it can dry out your skin.  Placing a bowl of water in the rooms will help to keep the air moist.  Warm weather can also dry out the skin; especially if you spend most of your time outdoors.  But make no mistake!  Where I live, we have a dry winter with lots of dust – so I also need to drink more water and use different beauty products.

Beauty products vary, just like the seasons.  Beauticians and other skin consultants suggest that we use moisturizers that is not thick and/or creamy during summer; if we are in a warm, sunny climate.  Lighter face- and body lotions / creams are ideal.  For those heading into winter, it is best to use lotions that are creamier, with added moisturizer in, for example coconut oil, macadamia oil, lavender, and so on.

If you suffer from cold hands and/or feet during winter, there are loads of products on the market to choose from, that might help.  For example, you can get thermal socks, socks you put in the microwave and of course, sheep wool gloves and socks.  Another tip is to use cayenne pepper, or to alternate between taking a hot and cold shower.  The latter is believed to help blood circulation, which aids in keeping you warm throughout the day.  I don’t know about you, but I haven’t tried this yet in the winter! 

Face creams, body lotions and the like, are great “extras” that aids in keeping your skin hydrated.  However, don’t think lathering yourself can / will replace what you put into your body.  Drinking enough water, eating plenty of fruits and vegetables, and taking the right vitamins, are key to keep your internal organs and cells, hydrated as well.  Did you know that, if you pull the skin on your hand, and it stays in the air a few seconds, that it is an indication that you are dehydrated?  Being thirsty is another sign that your body is starting to dehydrate.  I am not certain about the hours, but I know that you can survive longer without food that without water.

Enjoy whatever season you are in now and, whatever season is approaching.  if the thought of drinking lots of water when it is icy cold puts you off, then replace it with some herbal, black teas (without sugar).  Soups are also great and, as mentioned earlier, eating loads of fruits and vegetables, also provides fluid. Not skimping on your exercise-routine is also important.  If it is too hot or cold outside, do some indoor-exercises.  There are loads of videos on YouTube, Instagram and the like.  Early morning is a good time in the summer, unless of course you don’t mind being in the pool when it is warm! 

Seasons are changing

It is that time of the year again, when seasons are starting to change.  Many are getting ready for warm, sunny days; others are getting ready to curl up in front of a fire, with a hot chocolate.  It is important to look after our health this time of year.  Make sure to take extra vitamin C, a good multi-vitamin and Omega-3.  Cod Liver Oil is an age-old remedy that helps to give your immune system that extra boost.  However, I don’t blame you if you don’t like the idea of drinking that at all! 

There are many, other products, on the market that works just as good.  Another important vitamin is vitamin B; especially vitamin B6 & 12.  If you don’t eat red meat, or only now and again, do have your iron-levels checked and, if necessary, top up with vitamin B6 & 12.  For those who don’t go out in the sun enough, or who lives in a country where the sunshine is not as warm as in other parts of the world, do make sure to take your vitamin D regularly.

Staying active, drinking enough water and making sure to eat lots of vegetables and fruits, are also key.  But it is not just our physical body that needs to be looked after during these seasonal changes.  It is also our emotional- and psychological sides.  There are people that don’t like the idea of changing seasons – why I don’t know.  What I do know is that a person’s biorhythms fluctuate; the same as nature.  There are days that you are happy and full of energy and other days you can’t keep your eyes open!  It is natural and, if you live in harmony with nature, it is easier to handle.  By this I mean; instead of fighting your body, embrace the days that you feel “off.” 

Take time-out to relax, re-energize and just be in the now.  Watch what you eat, drink, say to yourself and what you watch and/or listen to on the television.  If you feel down, stay clear of drama; rather opt for reading an uplifting book, watch a comedy or go out in nature.  In previous blogposts I wrote about the benefits of being outdoors (even in winter) and how music, programs and your thoughts, all play a huge role in how you feel.  Not just about yourself, but the world and life in general.

As a last tip – never apologize for wanting time for yourself.  It is not necessary to “please explain” why you don’t want to go out tonight, or why you want to go outside instead of sitting inside all day.  Whatever your mood, always listen to your body and do what is best for you.  There was a speaker once, who said that, as a rule, he told his kids that they are only allowed to bang on the closed bedroom door if there is a fire!  Bottom line is; the seasons change every year; it is the natural rhythm of the earth.  Instead of dreading it, embrace it and look for the beauty – it is everywhere; regardless of the season.

Less is more – or is it?

Most of us like to spring-clean our house and office at least once a year.  Due to lack of space in many homes, there are 2 options for many home-dwellers:  you either pack away your clothes when the season changes and swop it with your winter / summer clothes; or you don’t keep things you don’t use or wear for longer than 6 months.  If you do live in a home with ample cupboard- and storage space, things can be different.  Cupboards can be filled to the brim and make spring-cleaning difficult, almost impossible, for some!

Whatever size your home is, ask yourself – is less more?  Does it matter if your cupboards aren’t filled to the brim with stuff?  How much of the stuff do you use or wear?  Is it important to you to have so many things, or can you get by with having less, but using all of what you have? 

Watching YouTube-videos of people living in Tiny Homes or RV’s, I was quite amazed, to be honest, with how little they come by.  I can get by with less stuff, but must be honest – I have more clothes and shoes than many of those people!  Not to mention my jewellery- and bag collection.  What can a girl say?  At least I know that, what I have, I use. 

It took me a few years to let go of certain things I had since I was a child; I purely held onto it due to memories of my grandparents.  However, one day I got up and decided to only keep the things, from them, that I use.  Now I use the glassware and cutlery-set daily and I am enjoying it.  Gone are the other things that just “collected dust,” but was never used.  Some were sold, some went to charity and other things went to friends / family.

I still have a lot of things and am busy with a clearing-out again.  What is enough for some people are too much for others; for some it is not enough.  Having less is quite liberating.  It is as if you feel lighter, because you know that, what you have, is used and appreciated.  Maybe having less started with the minimalistic-trend a few years ago, but you just have to look at the thousands of people downsizing into small / tiny spaces.  Then you realize that more and more people are detaching themselves from vast amounts of clothes, jewellery, homeware, and the like.  Instead, their focus has shifted to making memories – travelling, meeting new people and just enjoying nature.

What do you, my readers, think?  Is less more?  Or is it just a trend that will go away?  Will you be able to downsize and fit your life’s possessions into a tiny home or a RV?  One thing I do believe about the whole idea, is that many (not all) people are not attaching their status (aka their ego-side) from things.  A shift is occurring; one where the type of car you drive or the size of home you live in, doesn’t matter.  Nor the “label-clothes.”  Instead, people want to be with like-minded souls, they want to be and feel free to do what they want.  Me thinks that the Age of Aquarius has dawned upon us!

Grounding or Earthing

More and more people are realizing that we, as humans, are part of nature.  Nature not only plays an integral part in our survival, but it also is needed in order to bring about balance and harmony.  Unfortunately, a lot of nature is being destroyed due to pollution, deforestation and the like.  In today’s blog post I don’t want to dwell on the negative.  Instead, I want to delve a little deeper into the concept of grounding or earthing.

Grounding is when you walk barefoot on the grass or sand, or sit or lie on the ground for 30 – 40 minutes, earth’s electrons pulse through our bodies.  The earth, like everything else, is made up of electricity.  The earth has a magnetic energy field and, when you look at nature, everything is in balance and “lives and breathes” in accordance to this magnetic energy field.  The modern world has disrupted this natural rhythm due to cell phone towers, cell phones, televisions, and the like.  Instead of going to sleep when it gets dark and getting up when the sun comes up, millions of people go to sleep later, wake up later or sleep during the day and work during the night.

What are the benefits of grounding?  For starters, it helps you to relax and sleep better.  In other words, grounding enhances our biological processes.  Grounding helps with building and maintaining a strong immune system, aids digestions, circulation and sleep.  It can also aid in relieving pain, chronic inflammation, stress, depression.  Grounding is helpful in treating autoimmune diseases, for example Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s and even cancer.

Where did it all start?  In Arizona, USA.  A man by the name of Clinton Ober, who was a retired cable-tv technician, was battling a liver problem and midlife crisis!  One day, as he watched tourists getting off a bus in Sedona, it struck him that there is not a link between us and earth anymore, due to the shoes that we wear, the cars we drive and hours spend indoors.  He decided to do an experiment.  Clinton stuck a strip of metal duct tape across his bed, threw a wire out the window and attached it to a metal rod to ground him.  He not only slept better but also felt better.  After his “experiment, Clinton went to the University of California, excited to share the news.  After working with academics and integrative medicine professionals, Clinton, together with Stephen Sinatra (a cardiologist, turned bioenergetic psycho-therapist) and Martin Zucker, decided to write a book: “Earthing:  The Most Important Health Discovery Ever?” in 2019.

Fast-forward to 2021 and you will find numerous YouTube-videos, books and magazine articles about this subject.  There are, however, still sceptics out there.  Some medical professionals don’t quite understand the benefits yet and believe that, walking barefoot, is unnecessary.  According to these professionals, the earth’s impulses can still reach the soles of your feet even when you wear socks and/or a shoe.  I am no expert and of course will not like to walk barefoot in the middle of winter!  However, my common sense tells me that the less of a “barrier” there is between your bare feet and the earth, the better – and this includes the carpets, flooring, concrete, and so forth, that we call our “home’s floor.”

I think the best thing to do is to simply make time to spend as much time as possible outside, surrounded by nature (without the disturbance of a cell phone)!  Walking barefoot is not only beneficial for your psyche, but also for your feet’s health.  When you walk barefoot, the small metatarsals (muscles) in your feet and toes, get a very good workout.  It strengthens your ankles, helps with circulation and is a good leg workout (especially if you walk on sand).  Walking barefoot also massages your feet, exfoliates them (especially walking on sand) and stimulate all the pressure points.  In Reflexology pressure points link up with all the organs in your body.  When one / more are stimulated through massage, it aids in lymphatic drainage and circulation; it also relieves any ailment (-s). 

When you are grounded (earthed), you are content with who you are.  You are sure of yourself, have confidence in the decisions you make and you allow clean energy to come through (by getting rid of excess energy).  When you walk barefoot, in nature, your mind and heart come into balance; and by breathing slowly and deeply, you instantly relax and unwind.  Grounding is a great tool to use if your mind is over active, because it forces you, as it were, to calm down and come into balance again.  When you are more in touch with yourself and in balance with nature, you will instinctively be more mindful towards and respect your environment.

Next time you are outdoors (and it is safe), take off your shoes and feel the earth underneath your feet.  Happy grounding = happy bare feet = happy mind, heart and body!

Feeling stuck or at a dead end?

Often, through life, you get to a point where you feel stuck.  Whether it is in a personal or professional relationship, a job, or the place where you live, you do reach a dead end at times.  I don’t know about you, but there were times in my life where I thought: this is it; I am done.  Sometimes it was a great feeling to “be done” and move on; at other times I was certain that I was stuck, but had no idea where to do!  Let alone where to go!

Therefore, the question is:  what do you do?  Can you unstuck yourself, change direction or must you accept and make the best of it?  I think it all depends on which area in your life feels like a dead end.  When you are, for example, in a romantic relationship, that is going nowhere, then it is a good idea to consider cutting the chords and moving on.  There is no point in staying in a relationship with a person that doesn’t want the same things in life as you (whether it be marriage or children). It is not always easy to cut the chords, so to speak; especially if it has been a long-term relationship.  However, you must sit down, ask hard questions and then make a list of the pros and cons of staying or going.

When you feel that you have reached a dead end in the workplace, things might not be so easy to change; unless of course you have options.  For many people it is not easy to just leave a job where they don’t feel happy or noticed anymore.  For others it is difficult to leave because they simply don’t like change.  The best advice that I heard from a YouTuber called Anna Bey, is that you should always have a Plan B in life, regardless whether you are in a happy relationship, job or living in your dream space.  Life is unpredictable and, as the saying goes, the only constant in life is change.

Having a Plan B also helps you to feel more in control over your life and makes you more independent.  Gone are the days when women cannot be financially independent.  In a relationship or marriage, a Plan B is important, as anything can happen – divorce, death, separation, illness, and so forth.  When you feel stuck in your job, start to look for something else, but stay where you are until you nailed the other job.  If you want to work from home, for example, Anna suggests that you start doing it on the side-line, in your spare time.  Once it is bringing in enough money for you to leave your “9 – 5-job,” then you can quit.  Of course, it is always easier to do this if you have someone who is financially strong, and it wouldn’t make a difference to your relationship or household whether or not you also bring home a pay check for a while or not.

What else can you do besides a Plan B?  Especially if you are stuck and, at the moment, there is no way out?  Breathe and meditate would be my tips.  When you feel stuck, you become angry, frustrated, short-tempered and unhappy; even depressed.  Stop your negative thoughts that clog your mind and keeps you up all night.  Take a deep breathe in, saying to yourself that you are inhaling peace, and when you exhale, say to yourself, you are exhaling frustration (or whatever you feel).  Then quiet your mind, either by focusing on nature or by listening to calm, relaxing music, and visualize what changes you want.  Your brain is an extremely powerful organ that can help you to get to where you want to be, just by creating a balance between your mind and heart.  When your heart is not in something, then you don’t give your best, nor do you feel you want to carry on.  Therefore, it is vital that, when you feel stuck, that you sit down, take deep breathes, close your eyes and just relax. 

When you breathe deeply, your whole body will start to relax and the tension in your muscles will start to subside.  Then, when your mind is quiet, can you get in touch with your inner thoughts, your inner self and, by listening to your heart and not just your head, decide what is best for you.

Personally, I have been in different work situations where I didn’t get along with the boss, but I had to “stick it out” until I got something else.  It was difficult, but every day, before I walked in, I took a few deep breathes in and out, sent blessings and hoped for the best!  The most difficult part, for me, was to send blessings.  Why?  Because I couldn’t understand why I should bless someone who is nasty…crazy hey?!  As I did it more and more, I realized that the reason my mom always says send blessings, is because the nasty boss, for example, also has Divinity inside of her / him.  It is their ego that is in overdrive, so to speak.

So, dear readers, just a few tips coming from personal experience in today’s blog post.  We have all heard many sayings about life so I am not going to go into that.  All I want you to know is that you can change your life, your circumstances, your relationships, your job, if you want to.  “If you want to change the outside, you must change the inside” – one of my mom’s favourite quotes.  Basically, it says that anything is possible if you follow not just your head but also your heart.  Some people find change difficult and must first be pushed into a corner, before changing.  Others like change, want it, make it happen and grab it with both hands.

Making changes can be scary at first, but if it is going to make you happier and if it is something that speaks to your heart and mind, I say go for it!  Life is not a destination; it is a journey and we are all here to grow spiritually and to learn.  What better way to grow and to learn, than making changes in our lives…?